I am very much a do it yourself type of lady. Also, I am not really into western medicine. So at home, I strive to use natural solutions for our ills and I look for healthy alternatives to what’s on the market. I am going to share with you my current 4 favorites and why I love them so.
Let’s start with kale. This green leaf is one of the super foods nature produces. I love to chop it up really fine and throw it into salads, including tabbouleh. Kale is wonderful added to soups as well. The leaf tends to be rather firm and not so easy to chew, particularly for the kids, hence chopping it up really fine. I recently discovered kale chips. Boy, do they rock my world. As I said in an earlier post, I prefer savory over sweet snacks, so kale chips are the perfect snack for the health conscious! I bought myself a dehydrator for something like $40 (another great thing to have in the kitchen). Now I buy bunches of fresh kale, wash them, remove the thick center stem, lay the leaves on the racks of my nifty dehydrator and a few hours later I have my awesomely nutritious snack. Even the kids like them (my 7 year old loves them). Store bought ones tend to have oil and salt. You could add those ingredients, but, in my opinion, they are unnecessary, adding extra sodium, fat and calories. The flavor of dried kale is rich and nutty. Once the leaf is dried, you could then turn it into flakes or powder. Then you can sprinkle it onto your eggs, rice dishes, deli sandwiches, and smoothies for an extra health boost.
Cabbage is another house favorite. In Ayiti (Haiti), my people make great use of this leaf in natural remedies. It can be consumed as well as applied topically. Months ago, I slammed my thumb in the trunk of my van but was unable to reach the handle to open it up, so i had to pull it out. Ouch!!!!! I couldn’t even speak for a moment. Only tears & wimpering communicated my pain. The throbbing was outrageous and the swelling affected the functioning of my entire hand. When I spoke to my mom, she nonchalantly reminded me about cabbage. She said to get the greenest leaf, mash it up into a paste and wrap my thumb up with it. Well, I was in no condition to mash up anything, so I took a plain leaf and wrapped it around my thumb with a small piece of fabric and went to sleep. The next morning, the blood under the nail was a pale purple and my thumb was normal sized, not swollen! Furthermore, I could move it with no pain. I did it again for that whole day and was able to apply pressure with my thumb with zero pain. So green cabbage is an anti-inflammatory. An herbalist back home told me that men with prostate issues should not only have cabbage soup or tea, but should apply warmed cabbage leaves to the pelvis overnight. Same goes for people who suffer from hernias. Pregnant and nursing moms with engorged breasts can also rest with green cabbage leaves on their breasts to reduce the swelling.
Now, anytime we have a swelling issue in the house, we go for green cabbage leaves. We have also incorporated it, both raw and cooked, into our regular diet.
When most people think of clay, they imagine the hard, dried pieces that are fired in a kiln. Some will think of clay masks used in the beauty industry. But clay has amazing healing properties as well. When I was a child, I suffered from otitis (ear aches). My mother would make a sort of clay patty with dry powdered clay and some water, place it directly over my ear, wrap it up and send me to bed. The clay, as it dried, absorbed out the impurities and the ear ache was gone! I have used clay at home with my children particularly with insect bites. Spider bites, that tend to get really big and last a while, are minimized greatly with the help of a little clay. The same holds true for bee stings. Clay sucks out the toxins in its drying process. This is why it is used for facial masks, to absorb the bad stuff sitting in your pores. A little bit of clay goes a long way:)
Finally, I am recommending copper to everyone. Not only is it beautiful, it is great for our circulation. As an artist, I work a lot with my hands. Crochet, much like working on a computer, has repeated motions that can cause arthritis/carpal tunnel type issues. So I went to an acupuncturist for help. That was helpful, but not the solution. When my insurance decided to no longer cover my treatment, I asked my acupuncturist for an alternative. Initially, she recommended magnets. I didn’t have a way to wear magnets, so I asked for another option. That’s when she said copper. Being that my husband does electrical work and I save his scraps, I had plenty of copper. I made myself bracelets, rings and toe rings. Guess what? I haven’t had or needed acupuncture since! Today, as a part of my line of up-cycled jewelry (ALOUBA- found on Facebook & Etsy), I use a lot of copper. It looks great with patina or shinny pink. Although most people enjoy it in it’s naturally discolored form, some prefer that pink bling. To get that, all you need is lemon. Soak it, rub it, either way it will take away dark/patina areas.
I hope that this information has been helpful and that you will be able to make use of some of my tips. For now, these are my top 4 home must haves. Keep checking back for more helpful hints to healthy living. In the meantime, stay blessed:)
Homeschool or not to homeschool?
My response to that question is completely biased as none of my 4 children, ages 7 to almost 12, have ever attended a school. We have homeschooled since 2005 & have no intention of stopping just yet! I get a lot of “super-mom” & “you’re f**king insane” commentary, but the truth is neither of those things.
So why did I start homeschooling? Well, the first reason was schedule flexibility. My hubby is a musician & I am an artist/dancer. We have late hours being creative &, despite being an easy riser, I didn’t want to have to get 4 kids somewhere everyday, on time, early in the morning!!! I still don’t want that. Also, we wanted to be able to take off in the middle of the day & go to a museum, or do whatever we wanted.
Then, for me it was and is important for me to be a part of their lives in a very intimate way. I am hoping to lay the foundation of a trusting positive relationship with my kids. The way that I have had them experience me in their lives, I have no doubt that they know I got their backs. I birthed them at home, (to be shared in another post), was there for all the milestones, (except for the most recent first tooth loss in January), taught them to read, so why not just keep it going, right? Right. Not to mention that both the educational & social situations in schools recently are really uninviting. More and more I am meeting parents who are looking for alternatives for their academically unchallenged or socially bullied child. Teachers are overworked and underpaid. Now they are losing tenure!!! In a minute we’re going to be witnessing the rise of the disgruntled teacher. They will be having nervous breakdowns & blowing up classrooms!!! Our society is not valuing the role of the teacher, so our children are suffering from a lack of guidance. So this is why I homeschool:)
Now how do I do it? Well, I am not a teacher/educator in the vocational sense, so I do not consider myself equipped to conquer the task of creating a curriculum or selecting textbooks. I am not in a financial situation to pay for some of the homeschool programs either. I am sure this is just like many of you. My solution was k12.com. We’ve used this curriculum since we started & I am satisfied. It’s free on-line public school in many states through what they call virtual academies. So basically everything is scripted and materials are provided. My hand has been held the whole way. Now that most of the children are doing more independent study, my role in their schooling has diminished. The earlier time investment has truly paid off:)
How come my kids are so social? I make sure to keep them busy and signed up for plenty of extra curricular activities. I tend to keep them enrolled in each activity for at least a year. That allows them to make friends & create some lasting bonds. For example, we’ve been with our soccer club for at least 4 years & have created nice community of folks that we all enjoy (parents & kids).
Although I advocate for homeschooling, I understand that some people just cannot, usually because they have to work. Either way, the core of my advocacy is for the benefit of the child, so we as parents have got to step up and be present for our children. The schools are there to teach, not discipline or babysit the youth. Keep kids active, too busy to get caught up in foolishness.
Get them where they need to be with what they need to have on time. Let them feel how important they are to you, even when they drive you up the wall. Spreading the love….til next time;)
Working it through
I’ve always heard elders say that staying together as a couple is work. And now, having been with my husband for almost 13 years, I can testify that they weren’t lying! Like everyone, we’ve had trying times. We’ve even thrown in the towel, separating for almost a year. But through it all I have learned invaluable lessons on how to love and be loved better.
First and foremost, I have realized that whatever I do, in relationships or otherwise, as long as I keep LOVE my focus, there is levity and positive motion. Sometimes I whisper the word to myself before communicating my pain or discomfort. This little practice has helped me through many a situation by putting a smile on my heart, allowing me to be more tender & compassionate. A little self work goes a long way, destination forgiveness. I believe that keeping love in the forefront opens up our capacity to forgive. And forgiving only produces more love.
Ever since I can remember, I have placed great value on the principle of teaching by example. What better way to apply that than to our partners? Basically, be what you want your partner to be. This doesn’t mean that if I want flowers, I should be giving him flowers. I am suggesting treating, spoiling, endearing, engaging your partner if you wish to be treated, spoiled, endeared, engaged. This “you must give to receive” notion is quite transformational, not just for the person intended to be the initial recipient of the new spoiling, but also for the giver who discovers that it is truly “better to give than to receive.”
I find myself in a much happier and balanced state now that I stopped fighting and started loving. Now I am off to go create…inspired:)
Oh my cracker!!!
My snack preference throughout my life has been crackers. Chips always seemed to be to too dangerous, fried and salty. The sweet stuff is great but I don’t have much of a sweet tooth. So I lean towards the supposedly simple multigrain healthy cracker. About a year or so ago I came upon these tasty ones that looked to be just right for what I was going for. They were not as bland as the typical saltines, had lots of different grains and tasted ever so good by themselves. The box boasted “0g trans fat”, “baked with the goodness of wheat & 12 grains & seeds”, and “no artificial flavors”. What’s not to like, right?
Wrong!!! My husband got sick & wanted something light & good to have to ease back into eating solid food. Of course I thought of a cracker. However, considering I was dealing with his fragile tummy, I read what was actually in these delectable bites. What a shock!!!
Besides the not so bad or so great ingredients, there were some real nutritional monsters. First, TBHQ. I did’t know what it was so I checked it out. It is a preservative known to be carcinogenic. There is lots of info online about it, but it suffices to know that it is horrible for you. Then after all the lovely grains & seeds came hydrolysed soy protein. I have been very mindful of the soy I eat because it is one of those foods that is being heavily genetically modified and processed. Making it hydrolysed in this case only makes it worse! Next on the list was autolysed yeast. Once again, I had no idea what that was. I was floored to find out that it is MSG without saying that it is. Food producers have begun to use this name in the ingredients because MSG sends up red flags for most of us. Essentially our ignorance is being used against us. Companies are tricking us with bogus labels and substituting less common names in for the big no-nos. So please, don’t trust the packaging. Actually take a moment to read the ingredients & find out what they really are. The crackers that really pushed me to do this with all my food are ironically produced by a company called Dare. Not all their crackers contain all three of the toxins I listed, but they seem to at least contain one of them. The specific cracker is called the Breton. I encourage to beware of the Dare!!!
Welcome to the journey
I spent a good while trying to figure out just what box I wanted to put myself into for the purpose of this blog. I settled on lifestyle, but I am not a lifestyle!!! And, I am not just a mom, wife, artist, Haitian, dancer, drummer… I am all of these things and so much more. For me, the biggest narrow box that fits me is WOMAN. This way, I can write about what I want without feeling like I am coloring outside the lines.
AdventuresInWomanhood was created to help the movement of honesty. My grandmother and mother’s generations lived in shame, guilt, fear, pride, and whatever else kept their lips sealed, ears blocked, eyes shut and hearts heavy. There is no time to waste on this smoke & mirrors approach to life. I am looking to evolve out of what is familiar, easy and expected, into what is a truthful expression of my true self. In this, I hope to open dialogue and provide support and affirmation.
Thank you for joining me on a weekly journey through being a mom, wife, performer, artist, WOMAN! Look for next week’s post, Oh My Cracker!!!
In gratitude & appreciation,
AdventuresInWomanhood